As some of you may know, I am a fairly short person, and I want to grow taller like the forest trees in this picture. I’m fairly sure that will never ever happen. Today, though I can’t make one grow taller (even myself), I can share with you what I have learned about growing personally, experientially, and intellectually as a person. This kind of growth, I believe, is of utmost importance if one truly wants to succeed in life. Here’s what I learned are the characteristics necessary to facilitate personal growth:
- Humility/A willingness to learn–One of the most overlooked and important qualities to personal growth is the power in humility. In a previous post, I discussed the pitfalls of being arrogant, including not being able to get the help one needed, broken relationships, and not being able to learn new things. In contrast, one of the benefits of humility is that you are able to change and grow into a better person. Think about it: When you readily admit you don’t know everything, you are able to better receive correction and rebuke and learn ways to improve yourself than if you don’t.
- Motivation.–If you truly want to grow as a person, you most likely will, because you will want to do everything in your power to make this happen. Without motivation, almost all is lost. For instance, if you are not motivated by anything or anyone to be less selfish (not saying anyone is or isn’t–just an example), then you will most likely continue to act in selfish ways and even probably not think twice about it.
- Perseverance.–There will be obstacles whenever one tries to grow as a person. Some people will not like the change, even if it is positive. The key to lasting and sustained growth is perseverance. We need to keep on going in life to make positive and lasting changes as people. We cannot give up. If we give up, we stop growing. We need to work hard to overcome the obstacles that bind us down. We can do this by not only focusing on the positive but also using the negative obstacles as teaching tools for us to push through and move ahead in life. For instance, if you know you struggle with being patient, you can use the times when you got impatient as reminders of what not to do or say next time a similar situation like that happens.
- Adequate moral support.–One of the key factors in my personal growth as a person has been the support that I have gotten both on and offline. I have not always had a lot of support, but as people have seen that I wanted to grow as a person, they have graciously taken the time to support and guide me. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have adequate moral support, but for those of us who are, use your supports to be a better person to them and grow yourself. If you don’t have much support, I would suggest starting slowly to build your support network. I would frequent places where people have the same interests and goals you do and go from there, or I would go online to find communities that can give you some kind of moral support.
These are some of the characteristics that need to be present in order for someone to become emotionally and personally growing as a person. Sometimes it takes a long time to have any significant growth, but take things one step at a time, and do not give up. What other characteristics do you think is needed for one to grow as a person? Please discuss here.